We live in a society that thrives on validation. On social media sites, we post pictures or comments to share a piece of our lives. Sometimes, the pictures are just snapshots of a moment in time. Other times they are pictures manufactured to cover up the real truth. We look for validation through the number of likes or comments. For some, seeing pictures of happy gatherings and moments make us feel sad. We may not feel that our lives are as exciting or as rich as others. Other media outlets such as TV and magazines contribute to this feeling of self-doubt or unworthiness.
Perhaps you are in a relationship that no longer makes you feel good about yourself. Your partner may be distant or you’ve stopped doing the activities that you did prior to your relationship. When you take care of yourself and your needs first, you become more attractive to others. You begin to emit positive, happy energy and that energy is felt by those around you.
Here are three ways you can begin to build or rebuild your self-esteem.
- Stop comparing yourself to others
Comparison is the quickest path to unhappiness. The grass will always seem greener on the other side. A married person may long for their single life, a single person may wish for marriage. Remember, everything may not be as it seems. A friend may post their awesome vacations, and cars, but they may be in an unhappy relationship or alone without many close friends. Be content where you are today. Learn to appreciate what you have now. When you come from a space of feeling abundance and not lack, more of the things you desire will begin to appear in your life.
- Make a list of all your positive qualities
Spend a few minutes making a list of all your positive qualities and traits. If you can’t think of many adjectives, ask your friends to help you. You may be a good cook, be very resourceful, or a great listener. Whatever those adjectives or nouns are, write it down and keep it where you can remind yourself of how wonderful you really are.
- Try new things
If you are living a life of routine, shake it up. Sign up for a class at your local gym or college. Take a class on something you never thought you’d like. See how the subject matter feels. You may learn that you have an innate ability for photography or making jewelry. Volunteer at the organization that matters to you. The goal is to stretch yourself and find things that you are passionate about.
When you begin to realize how incredible you are and are surprised by all your new and diverse interests, you won’t care what people think on social media. You will be content with just being you.
If you want to learn about the steps I took to finding inner peace and happiness, and to help find the happiness locked inside of you, get your copy of Balanced Life Happy Life (Balboa Press, 2015) today at www.tastingwellness.com/my-book.