At the dance studio where I take classes, there was a new guest party being held and she wanted to attend. Off we went to have a couple of hours of fun. The dance instructor taught everyone a basic step that allowed us to move through various types of dance styles – waltz, salsa, rhumba, cha cha, swing, and the hustle.
While we were dancing, Lisa mentioned that she was feeling very self-conscious. I reminded her that everyone, including me, has at one point felt the same way she did. I told her that the other guests were too concerned about themselves to be noticing her. Once she began to relax, we laughed so hard and danced like we didn’t have a care in the world.
She had such a good time that she asked if we could attend the femme hip hop class that was being held the next day. Femme Hip Hop? Was she nuts? We came back the next evening. All the class attendees were in heels and sexy outfits ready to channel their inner Beyoncé. Lisa and I were in flats and fully covered thinking we were going to be do more old school style of dancing. But there we were grinding our hips, popping our chests, and doing body rolls while all the male dance instructors were looking on. Talk about feeling self-conscious! After the first couple of body rolls and steps that slightly resembled a pole dance, I was ready to run and hide. Lisa reminded me of the advice I had given her only 24 hours before. Once I heeded my own advice, I began to relax and not care who was watching or how utterly silly I looked trying to dance like one of those 20-something pop stars.
When we worry about how others may perceive us, we miss out on the joy of the activity we are doing. Dance as if no one is looking. Tap into your inner child. Children dance and sing without fear. Don’t be concerned that you missed a dance step or that you look silly rolling your hips. Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Relax into the activity and enjoy it. Life is a long time to take everything so seriously.
This week, I challenge you to do one thing that pushes you out of your comfort zone. What activity do you want to try? Leave a comment. I’d love to hear about your experience.
If you want to learn about the steps I took to finding inner peace and happiness, and to help find the happiness locked inside of you, get your copy of Balanced Life Happy Life (Balboa Press, 2015) today at www.tastingwellness.com/my-book.